Christian Piatt Blog

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By Christian Piatt

I’ve heard enough “preacher’s wife” jokes to last me a lifetime. No, I don’t cook a mean casserole. No, I don’t know how to knit. And no, I absolutely will not join the handbell choir.

My wife, Amy, got ordained about four years ago, and straight out of seminary, we planted a new church together in Pueblo, Colorado. Even when she interviewed for the job with the local team putting the plans together, they talked about how great it would be to bring her on board, especially since they would get me as “a bonus.”

It gave me at least a small taste of what pastors’ spouses probably have endured for decades. The pastor’s wife has, for so long, been seen as a perpetual volunteer who does everything for the church, but for no pay. It’s almost a given, in more traditional circles, that a new minister comes with a partner who will pick up a lot of ancillary jobs that are set aside specifically for that spouse’s role.

My uncle is a pastor, and his wife performs many of the traditional duties in the various churches where they have served. Amy’s dad is a minister, and so was her grandfather, great-grandfather, and so on, each with faithful women at their sides who have facilitated their ministerial vision.

Amy, however, is the first ordained woman in her family, which also means I’m the first male pastor’s spouse. This, however, is not an anomaly in mainline churches. The number of women attending seminary is growing every year. With the rapid attrition of retiring ministers reaching critical levels, even those congregations who once cringed at the idea of a female pastor now must at least consider the possibility if they are going to survive in the twenty-first century.

But this also means there are going to be more men in the role of pastor’s spouse. In some cases, like ours, the husband is involved, but just not in the ways the church generally expects the traditional wife to participate. I preach now and then, lead worship, and help with youth; but I have my own life, my own career, and my own vision of what church should look like—gasp—independent of Amy.

At best, churches are having to get used to these changing roles. Worst case, the husband is not involved at all, or, if he is, it’s only as a congregant rather than as a leader. The days of a two-for-one deal when hiring the prototypical male pastor are quickly fading into the history books, and if we’re going to survive as a relevant faith movement, it’s incumbent upon us to figure out new ways to be church.

One thing that is different about Amy’s and my approach to ministry is the egalitarian nature of our work together. Though she is ordained and I’m not, and although she’s paid and I’m not, we don’t perceive her role in the church as any more important than mine. Just like our approach to parenting, we are less interested in hierarchy and clearly defined roles and more intent on finding a way to share responsibility.

A tremendous advantage we have in developing this sort of model is that I work from home as a writer, so I set my own schedule. Unlike many other working spouses, I can help out with youth camps, mission trips, and other mid-week projects. Many male spouses, however, don’t have that luxury, and sometimes the last thing they want to do with their few hours of free time every week is spend more time at church.

I do believe, however, that the way we’re building this new church in southern Colorado is portentous of things to come. As many of us recognize, the old institution-centric models of churches are increasingly difficult to sustain, and church as we know it will look radically different in coming decades, if it is to survive. One challenge within this new model of church is that, with less of an emphasis on the hierarchic structure of religious institutions, there are fewer resources dedicated to full-time staff persons.

If this new way of doing church takes hold, you will see more and more bi-vocational ministers, which has its benefits and drawbacks. On the positive side, a minister with other sources of income can spend his or her time at church focusing on growing the mission of the faith community, rather than focusing as much on survival. The downside, of course, is that he or she doesn’t have nearly the same amount of time or energy to invest, which means other part-time staff or volunteers have to pick up the slack.

Here’s where our model of building a church as a team actually works well. We’re fortunate with my flexible schedule that Amy can work for the church full time. But if I was in a traditional job and the church had to pay someone to do everything that I do, they couldn’t at this point, because we’re still small. However, if we had to, the church could break up Amy’s and my responsibilities into two positions, managed by two spouses or a pair of bi-vocational part-time ministers, accepting as part of the deal that there would not necessarily be a single person on call at all times for the congregation’s personal needs.

We’re still feeling our way in this new church thing, and so far, it’s worked for us. Sure, I get the jokes now and then, but they’re fewer than they used to be. Amy still has the occasional visitor who walks out when she stands up behind the pulpit to speak, so it’s not all wine and roses for her either. But we’ve decided that, whatever path this calling takes, we’re in it together. Neither one of us could do it without the other, and that sense of interdependence actually makes the hard times easier to manage, knowing we’re not going through them alone.

Christian Piatt is the author of MySpace to Sacred Space: God for a New Generation, and Lost: A Search for Meaning, and he is a columnist for various newspapers, magazines, and websites on the topics of theology and popular culture. He is the founder and president of www.MyWordTree.com and serves as co-founder of Milagro Christian Church in Pueblo, Colorado, with his wife, Amy. For more information about Christian, visit www.christianpiatt.com.

Though most may not agree with me, I’m inclined to argue that Pueblo, Colorado, our city of 100,000 in southern Colorado, could very well become the epicenter of political attention in coming weeks.

Though we’re not on the radar of many pundits and reporters, we are getting a lot more attention these days. Senator Barack Obama spoke recently to a rally of 14,000 at the fairgrounds here, and Senator McCain is slated to speak at the university campus on Friday. Just yesterday, I heard Pueblo mentioned twice on National Public Radio. I’d also bet that Obama will make a second trip here before the polls close in November.

So, why might a small town like Pueblo help decide the presidential election?

There are a few reasons. First of all, we are about equal parts Latino and Anglo in our community. It’s been increasingly reported in the past couple of weeks that Latinos may be the determining factor in this election: the so-called swing vote everyone covets. So if you can pinpoint the swing voters in the swing states, you’re obviously going to give more attention to them.

Though there are many states identified as swing states, Colorado is one of the closer races so far. It’s one where, although we have trended democratic for local and legislative races, we also have gone Republican quite often for president. Denver is a mixed bag, while Colorado Springs is strongly conservative. Boulder and Fort Collins, our biggest college towns, lean liberal. Then you have Pueblo, which although registered Democrats outnumber Republicans two-to-one, these are generally more socially moderate to conservative blue collar democrats, who cross party lines based .. issues and personalities.

We also have to consider what happened in Pueblo in the Democratic primaries earlier this year. Although Colorado overall went two-to-one for Obama over Hillary Clinton, the reverse was true in Pueblo. Even though Obama has offices all over town here, he lost handily in Pueblo County to Hillary, and there are plenty of former Hillary supporters who are still disgruntled and looking for a political home.

Another thing that makes us important is reflected by one of the slogans by which our city is known: “Home of Heroes.” we have four living Medal of Honor recipients living here, which is remarkable for the size of our town. This reflects the strong history of military service here, and so issues such as the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan provide an opportunity for McCain to find kindred spirits among Democrats who might swing his way on foreign policy issues.

Finally, there’s the matter of Pueblo economics. We have a pervasively working-class community that reflects in many ways the prototypical values of “Main Street” that so many politicians are talking about. We have a mix of rural and blue collar labor jobs here, and as manufacturing is – or at least has been – a key factor in our country’s economic strength, one has to look no further than Pueblo to see how working class voters will respond to proposed policy decisions.

Only time will tell if my theory of Pueblo becoming the next Iowa – or, God forbid, the next Dade County – will be proven. But there are plenty of reasons why this relatively laid back and strangely anonymous city along I-25 a hundred miles south of Denver may make headlines come November.

I say let’s bask in the limelight, brief as it may be, while it lasts.